Of course, this is not to say that you can’t feel
disappointment from time to time. All feelings are valid, and denial or
suppression is an unhealthy way of dealing with negative emotions.
It is normal to take a little time to recover from an
unsuccessful attempt at something you care about, but the key is not to stay in that disappointed state
for too long, but to move forward with a “Now what?” attitude.
Think of Edison with his one thousand attempts at inventing
the light bulb, and his epic statement that he didn’t fail a thousand times,
but discovered a thousand ways that didn’t work. He clearly did not spend much
time wallowing in disappointment or discouragement, but kept on rolling up his
sleeves, and getting on with his next effort.
Winning Can Be Found
Winning is not only big victories, which can be infrequent,
but in small everyday successes and pleasures.
Winning is counting your blessings, and appreciating them on
a regular basis. If you celebrate a big win, you may experience a brief burst
of elation, but the feeling can pass very quickly.
Don’t wait for big successes to enjoy the joyful feeling of accomplishment
A true winning mindset is feeling like a winner just because
you have the chance to play in the game of life. It is also recognizing that if
you are living your life in a way that feels good to you, you are winning.