HOW TO CHANGE YOUR beliefs in 9 steps

Knowing how to change your beliefs gives you the power to deliberately choose beliefs that support your dreams and desires. With this comes the freedom to develop beliefs that feel good to you, and to gradually move away from beliefs that hold you back, drag you down, or no longer align with your values and goals.


This article offers a practical guide for how to change your beliefs, but I want to preface the material with one important point. Knowing what to do, and actually doing it are two very different things.

Understanding conceptually how to change your beliefs will not change them unless you decide to take action, and then follow through with ongoing commitment.

A lot of people realize that reading fitness magazines is not going to get them in great shape. The tips you read can help with techniques and motivation, but this will only benefit you if you hit the gym and keep hitting it.

With this in mind, read about how to change your beliefs, and then as the slogan goes, “Just Do It!”

HOW TO CHANGE YOUR beliefs - steps 1 to 3

These steps form the foundation for the process of changing beliefs. They take you through the identifying, assessing, and planning stages, and prepare you to move into the action part of how to change your beliefs.

step 1 - identify the beliefs you want to change

What are the beliefs that you feel you would be better off not having? Write them down as clearly and specifically as you can. You may find a common theme running through some of these limiting beliefs, or you may notice several areas that don’t appear to be related. The goal of this step is conduct an honest assessment of where you are right now.

step 2 - determine your reasons for change

Why do you want to change these beliefs? This step helps you to determine your motivation for making changes. This is an important factor in building the motivation to keep moving through the process.

List the reasons that you feel you would like to discontinue these beliefs. These reasons will likely include some variations of the following:

  •  These beliefs feel uncomfortable to me, and cause negative emotion of some type.
  •  I feel that these beliefs are holding me back and limiting my success or happiness.
  • These beliefs were taught to me and I would not choose them now, but they seem to have a hold on me.
  • These beliefs do not match my true values or my vision of my best life.

step 3 - design new beliefs

Design new beliefs that you would like to have to replace the old ones. This step is the equivalent of setting your destination as you embark on a trip. You have already determined your starting point, and the reasons why you want to go somewhere else. Now, where do you want to go? This will be your point of focus moving forward.

For example, a belief you might want to change is that it is hard to find true love. The new belief that you might decide to work towards is that finding true love is one of the most natural and common experiences in the world.

HOW TO CHANGE YOUR beliefs - steps 4 to 6

These steps of the process are the nuts and bolts of how to change your beliefs. They focus on training your thinking, finding evidence to support the beliefs you are training yourself into, and ignoring or discrediting evidence of the beliefs that you are moving away from.

step 4 - train your thinking

Train your thinking with gradual steps. In step 1 you identified the beliefs you want to change, and in step 3 you designed the new and improved beliefs you want to have.  Now it is time to begin moving gradually from your starting point towards your destination.

You cannot expect to jump from believing “I will never get out of debt,” to “I am rich.” For one thing, your rational mind that notices your reality will not allow you to believe such a (currently) blatant lie.

What you could start by working on training yourself to believe is something just slightly better than what you believe right now. For example, a next step could be “There are people who were deeply in debt that are now debt-free.”

Then once this starts to become the thought you can find easily about your financial situation, you can keep moving it forward. Try statements or affirmations such as “There are aspects of my life that were tough before, but are great now,” or “My more optimistic attitude is helping me begin to move towards a brighter financial situation.”

step 5 - find proof of your new beliefs

As you are practicing increasingly better thoughts as a way to change an old belief, look for evidence of the beliefs you want to have. This can be in your own life, or in the world around you.

With the above example of wanting to believe that you can become debt-free, the evidence in your own life could be in different forms. The essence of becoming debt-free is the experience of freedom, and you can look for parts of your life where you are already experiencing freedom.

Maybe you work from home, and have freedom about when you work, what you wear while you are working, and can even work from your bed if you choose. That’s pretty free!

step 6 - ignore proof of your old beliefs

Practice ignoring evidence of the beliefs you want to replace. Just as finding evidence of the new beliefs you are training yourself into supports these beliefs and makes it easier for them to become solid, noticing proof of your old beliefs will strengthen those.

When you find yourself observing examples that validate your old beliefs, turn your attention elsewhere. Add fuel to what you do want, not what you don’t want.

HOW TO CHANGE YOUR beliefs - steps 7 to 9

These steps help to reinforce the training that you have been doing to change your beliefs. By giving yourself every possible encouragement as you work to change your beliefs, you allow your new beliefs to become an ingrained part of the positive mindset you are creating.

step 7 - create a support network

Surround yourself with people and circumstances that support your new beliefs.

One way to do this is by choosing to spend as much of your time as you can with people who encourage, support and believe in you. Whether this is family and friends, or physical or virtual groups of uplifting others, it is very beneficial to have people around you that help you to focus on your success.

Another way is to observe people who are living the way you want to live, and believe the things you want to believe through videos, TV or books and articles.

step 8 - celebrate your progress

Notice your progress in changing your beliefs and congratulate yourself for every small step forward. It is so important to pay attention to the success you are achieving in gradually changing your beliefs. Doing this provides motivation to keep moving forward and creates an atmosphere around you that attracts more of the positive circumstances and others that help to build momentum.

step 9 - notice how your new beliefs are creating a new reality

Notice the way that your reality begins to change to support the new beliefs that you are creating. When you start to see evidence of changes in your life, because of the mental training that you are doing, it provides a huge boost to your confidence in the process and your eventual success. It also builds more of the momentum mentioned in the previous step. This is when the phrase “The better it gets, the better it gets,” takes on real meaning as you keep on discovering yow to change your beliefs.

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