don't fight fire with fire
Have you ever tried to get rid of negative thoughts, and
then found yourself on some version of this guaranteed path to a blazing
inferno of negativity?
You focus on the negative thoughts and how they make you
feel, and you decide you don’t want to think them anymore.
You then notice how long you have been thinking them, and
how justified you are in thinking them, because after all, they are based on
some proof. You discuss the topic of the thoughts with others, and get
confirmation that your negative thoughts are valid, and that there are a whole
lot of other people who have similar thoughts.
However, you remember that the thoughts really feel horrible
when you think them, and that you want to get rid of them.
You then beat yourself up for thinking them because you know
you “should” think positive thoughts. You label yourself as a failure for
having the negative thoughts to begin with, and for not being able to get rid of
them sooner. Yikes!!